I have to sound an alarm here. He likes her and she likes him. From what they can tell, their relationship could hardly be better. It's a God thing. However, marriage came up and the fact is, neither of them is ready for it naturally (finances, education, residence). The girl is getting really excited and anxious about the idea of marrying him.
They're probably the cutest couple you'll ever meet! I know they are meant for each other. What I'm afraid of is that she'll be so hyped to marry from how he treats her that he won't have enough time to make all the proper preparations ready... She'll be emotionally ready for that next step before he reaches it. Then what will happen?
I foresee she might come to feel like he wasn't completely sincere about marriage. Some amount of trust will be lost on her part. He may feel rushed and unsupported —maybe as if she doesn't believe in him. Gosh, I hate to think that might happen to them! And again, their relationship will lose an ounce of the perfectness it has now.I guess another possibility is that she'll be so hyped to get married that she'll move on to marry a man who's good enough for her and ready. That will utterly crush him though. Maybe unlikely, but it happens.
"In theory" meaning "theoretically speaking," and "in practice" meaning "literally." In relationships where there is a lot of "in theory" talk, the two people could end up in different places. One person might keep thinking that thinking and speaking of the future "in theory" will be enough for as long as they want/need it to be, while the other is shifting towards believing that the relationship is changing to being "in practice."
Communicating these points of views often and clearly is crucial! Imagine the chaos to erupt if one day they start an argument based on this disagreement of their minds, which can be avoided by being up-front and clear early on. Having a "this is where we are" talk, doesn't always mean someone wants to breakup.
...this whole things just shows me another reason why people who can't get married for a while should not be in relationships.
What advice would you give to this sort of situation?
